Loosen Your Grip
May 16th, 2008 | By Boy @ Heart | Category: Songs
As I mentioned briefly last week about letting go and starting again in the moment, it led me to write this song. So often we suffer because of the way we "love" others. I just realised (I do a lot of realising, you might have noticed) right or wrong that much of the time, we can be guilty of trying to impose certain conditions or preferences on those we love and instead of expressing our love for that person as they are it’s a kind of ongoing test for them to keep ticking all the boxes we have in our mental list of who this person needs to be to be perfect for us.
This is a big subject and one which can’t be fully expressed in this post. Maybe I’ll write at length about it some time, but I think the real message here is that if you have strong expectations of someone you love then maybe you are not gifting them with love at all, but rather taking what love they have for yourself. Controversial? Probably, but love is not just a game or a nice warm, fuzzy feeling. It comes in many guises and can cause controversy in and of itself.
Loosen Your Grip
If you can reach a point where you have no attachment to whether you will lose a person, a belonging or a particular situation then you are operating out of love. You are letting go, surrending to life, so to speak. It may come as no surprise then from this standpoint, that what you truly treasure in your heart comes right to you. That is why you just know when you have found the person whom you truly love because there is no analysis required and you don’t even think about what life would be like if that person was no longer there. Please think about that it can make the difference between feeling great or feeling lousy.
Enjoy!
I hope at the end of the year you’re going to release an album of your best work from this project
I love your music
Hi Kristie,
I was planning on releasing a quarterly album, documenting the songcast as it progressed, which I am a bit behind with!
What has slowed me down is whether I should release the songs as they are or polish them up a bit.
I would love somw feedback as to what other people think about that.
Thanks for the support and kind words.
i dont know how to listen to these songs…but the tittles sound good
how did you start this website??
i write lyrics but i dont know wher to post anything to get started
any advice??
please
Hi Jennalyn,
Thanks for the comment. What browser are you using? I know this site has issues with IE6 and I’m not sure how to fix that.
If you are not using IE6 then you should just be able to click the play button at the top of each post. If that does not work for you then try subscribing to the iTunes podcast or the RSS feed, which will keep you updated automatically and enable you to download the songs to play on your computer as MP3s.
To subscribe select either of the two icons at the top right of the page next to the Website title.
With respect to your lyric writing… My advice would be to just start something even if you don’t know where to take it next. Do you know anything about blogging? If you do, you could start a blog and post your lyrics there.
If you need any more advice feel free to contact me via the contact page and I’ll do my best to help. I’d be glad to.
Good luck!